Today’s Word: assertive

February 24, 2017 =========

☆  assertive  独断的な


Often when we call someone assertive there is a negative nuance (especially if the person we are talking about is a woman.) However, I think that being assertive is actually a good trait. All it really means is that you state your needs and opinions clearly, so that people take notice. That seems like a sensible thing to do, don’t you think?

Being assertive, however, is seen as being a negative trait: people think you are being too confident, too pushy, too aggressive, most people try not to be assertive, which probably leads to misunderstandings and feeling bad about a situation because you didn’t say what you really wanted in the first place!

How about in Japan, is being assertive common? Is it becoming more common?